How to manage minor incontinence?

They sell pads that are made especially for women who have incontinence and she should be wearing them. It's NOT embarring at her age to have minor incontinence. In fact women much younger, even in their twenties, sometimes experience this on a chronic basis. They have several medications that can help so the urge isn't so frequent but in my opinion they don't work good. The best thing is just to admit that you need to wear a pad and do it. They do not all look like the typical Attends or Depends in the Diaper fashion. For women with minor incontinence, the pads are much smaller almost the size of a menstrual pad. And I'd recommend that you buy her wet wipes (baby wipes) to use also as they clean good when you get urine on you. And I'm talking from personal experience. She can talk to her doctor about it too, but at her age she may not want to start doing Kegal exercises unless she is in good health. When she has a pad in place, and she no longer gets urine on her clothes, she'll feel much better overall. Best of luck for her!